How To Be More Confident In My Body

How To Be More Confident In My Body

Written by Ben Bunting: BA, PGCert. (Sport & Exercise Nutrition) // British Army Physical Training Instructor // S&C Coach.


Are you often doubting your abilities and feeling insecure? Now is the time to let go of any self-limiting beliefs and embrace your inner confidence!

In this article, we'll examine how confidence can transform from insecurity into empowerment, providing practical tips and techniques that can help unlock your full potential in either your professional or personal life.

It is the cornerstone of success! Not believing in yourself doesn't just involve believing; it involves acknowledging and celebrating all your strengths.

We will explore various strategies to boost confidence such as positive self-talk, setting achievable goals, and surrounding yourself with supportive people.

One of the best ways to build confidence is through taking proactive steps outside your comfort zone and venturing beyond it.

We will discuss how embracing challenges and failure can actually propel your confidence levels higher than before.

Reframing your mindset and adopting a growth mindset are powerful ways of turning insecurities into opportunities for personal development and self-discovery.

Get ready to embark on an amazing journey of personal empowerment; break free of insecurity and unlock inner confidence! So let's do this thing together!

What is Confidence and How Can You Gain It?

One thing we can all agree upon is the importance of confidence. From how we approach work, to relationships and self-care - having more faith in one or more aspects of your life can have a dramatic effect on happiness and success.

But what exactly is confidence, and how can we develop more of it daily? This article will give you all of the tools necessary to comprehend what confidence means and practice it daily.

Confidence can be defined as "a feeling of trust and firm belief in yourself and others." It often manifests in positive emotions and an optimistic outlook about future prospects; however, it should not be confused with arrogance or hubris (the belief that one is superior).

Note that confidence is built from experience; therefore, its development can be affected by past experiences.

For instance, being mocked for your underwater basket-weaving hobby could reduce confidence when socializing with others.

Gaining control of confidence begins with becoming aware of when and where your lowest points lie.

Once this has been identified, identify any external or internal forces working against you and look for ways to combat them - for instance practicing public speaking might increase confidence levels significantly. 

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The Psychology of Insecurity

Insecurity can be a result of traumatic experiences, patterns from early childhood (like abusive relationships or neglect), social conditioning, and even your brain chemistry.

It can also stem from life events, notably unstable economic times and the loss of a job, as well as mental health issues or the impact of social stigma.

It is not uncommon for people to feel insecure about certain aspects of their lives, like school, work, trust in others, communication skills, self-esteem, or family and romantic relationships.

Often, the effects of insecurity are hidden and difficult to recognize, but they have significant impacts on one’s life and relationships.

Insecure people may be overly cautious around others, fearful that their actions will embarrass them or lead to ridicule, and believe that others don’t want them to be around.

This type of behavior can ultimately cause a person to become isolated from friends and family. It is also common for insecure people to experience difficulties in romantic relationships, especially when they doubt their partner’s loyalty and are constantly checking up on them.

While there are many ways to combat feelings of insecurity, the most effective is working with a licensed therapist.

Therapy can help people build emotional awareness, intelligence, and literacy so that they can better identify their insecurities and find healthy ways to overcome them.

You can find a therapist near you by calling your insurance company, asking your primary care doctor for treatment recommendations, or using an online therapist directory to search for specialists and their credentials.

Recognizing and Addressing Self-Doubt

Recognizing and combatting self-doubt are crucial steps towards building self-confidence. Our doubts often result from unhelpful ways of thinking; luckily there are numerous strategies available for combatting them.

At first, it may help simply to recognize when and why you're experiencing self-doubt, before determining its source.

Perhaps your negative self-talk has returned or something has triggered memories from your past such as being made to feel incapable or being criticised as a child; by pinpointing its cause you can begin the healing process and dismantle any doubt.

Self-doubt can also arise from wanting too much external validation, or unfavorable comparisons with others (especially on social media), an inability to tolerate discomfort, or fear of making the wrong choices - these could all be potential sources of self-doubt that need to be managed effectively.

It might help in such instances to visit a therapist who teaches skills like meditation or mindfulness to help you deal with them more easily.

Self-doubt can be an irrational reaction to new experiences and challenges; however, when it becomes chronic and debilitating it can have serious repercussions for your wellbeing.

If you find yourself struggling to overcome self-doubt it may be wise to reach out for help from a therapist who can assist in changing irrational or unhelpful thinking and help you develop greater confidence and resilience.

Seeking assistance does not signify weakness; rather it demonstrates strength.

Building a Positive Self-Image

An integral component of healthy self-image is being proud of your achievements, capabilities, successes and failures - not only looking in the mirror and liking what you see but also feeling pride for them all.

Knowing your strengths while accepting weaknesses as part of the learning process. Furthermore, having access to support that listens and validates you is also key.

Psychology distinguishes two forms of self-images, both positive and negative. A positive image includes objective assessments that do not depend on subjective judgments such as height, weight and hair color.

Whilst negative assessments can include both objective and subjective evaluations such as believing you are unattractive or unhealthy as well as beliefs that you do not live up to an ideal version of yourself and that others share these perceptions of you.

Many factors can have an effect on one's self-image, from early childhood experiences and interactions to social interactions.

Bullied children in particular can develop negative self-perceptions which follow them into adulthood. Parents/carers play an essential role by sharing positive messages with their children as well as teaching problem solving techniques from an early age.

To build a positive self-image, it is key to avoid unnecessary self-criticism and instead focus on making progress towards goals.

Also important is refraining from comparing yourself with others as everyone's journey is unique; though this may be challenging at times, remembering your individual strengths and weaknesses can help create a more positive self-image.

Embracing Your Strengths and Weaknesses

By acknowledging both your strengths and weaknesses, embracing both can unlock your full potential for success and happiness.

By identifying and exploiting your unique talents, aligning them with passions, cultivating a growth mindset, and positively impacting others, you can transform your life into something truly unforgettable.

When we consider our strengths, we often think in terms of leadership, communication and empathy - but there are other qualities which could also count as strengths such as determination, honesty and problem solving.

Recognizing our strengths can be straightforward; however, admitting our weaknesses may prove more challenging. Perhaps they're viewed negatively, or it can simply be tough admitting we lack skills in certain areas.

Once you have an accurate picture of your strengths and weaknesses, take some time to reflect upon them. Think about ways you could incorporate your strengths into daily routine, while brainstorming solutions to address weaknesses.

For instance, if public speaking is one of your weak points, consider ways that can allow you to showcase other strengths within the job, such as project management or coordination.

Be mindful when using weaknesses as crutches; otherwise they can limit how effectively you leverage your strengths.

For example, if applying for a job and listing "perfectionist" among your traits would help show how this trait has been overcome in past experiences or has even proven an asset in professional settings.

Overcoming Fear of Failure

It's normal to feel worried about how people will receive your ideas or whether you can complete tasks successfully, but if these fears begin preventing you from taking actions which could cause failure or you become easily distressed when facing challenges.

It could indicate fear of failure (also known as atychiphobia) which is a form of anxiety that leads to panic attacks, avoidance of challenging situations, lower self-esteem and pessimism.

Overcoming fear of failure involves shifting your perspective of what constitutes success. Successful people like J.K. Rowling and Richard Branson are very open about their various failures and how they influenced future achievements.

Therefore, consider each setback as a learning experience rather than something that will forever diminish your chance at achieving what you want.

Mindfulness can help you develop a more flexible approach to risk-taking by taking small steps toward what scares you.

For instance, if playing Moonlight Sonata on an instrument makes you nervous, break it into smaller parts and practice gradually before facing your fears head-on.

Be kind to yourself; everyone experiences fear - even the most confident individuals have them! Lastly, stop caring too much what others think of you; focus instead on the only opinion that matters: your own.

Cultivating Self-Compassion and Self-Care

Cultivating self-compassion and self-care is an integral part of healing. People who practice these practices tend to experience less negative emotions such as anger, sadness and fear - as well as be more likely to continue with healthy habits even after experiencing setbacks, such as failed weight loss or disappointing lab tests.

Self-compassion can be developed through self-care practices such as prioritizing personal wellbeing, altering negative self-talk, journaling and practicing mindfulness.

Self-compassion may also be strengthened through meditations that incorporate self-compassionate elements like warmth, tenderness and acceptance; guided or otherwise.

One form of self-compassion practice includes writing yourself an imaginary friend's letter offering unwavering love and support - this can help you reflect upon past challenging experiences with more compassion and common humanity.

Your can also develop an accurate vocabulary to accurately express how you're feeling by engaging in journaling exercises and filling out feelings and needs lists.

Self-compassionate interventions include learning how to listen and respond appropriately to your own emotional needs - perhaps taking a break, drinking some tea, or discussing them with an approachable friend. 

Surrounding Yourself With Positive Influences

Your surroundings have an enormous effect on your life. Surrounding yourself with positive, supportive people can elevate your spirit and help you to blossom into the best version of yourself; conversely, spending time with people who drain energy can impede progress toward fulfilling one's potential.

Negative people tend to focus on their problems instead of finding solutions, often complaining and venting instead of looking for ways out.

Their lack of motivation can have an adverse effect on others and become infectious; while positive people take every situation as an opportunity for growth; inspiring and uplift those around them with their optimistic attitude.

Surrounding yourself with positive influences will not only encourage you to strive towards your goals, but will also teach you how to become a more positive individual yourself.

One effective way of finding these people is networking within your field of work or engaging in activities such as attending workshops or clubs where like-minded individuals might congregate - whether this means attending workshops, joining clubs, or participating in any number of fun activities that bring people together.

Take time to evaluate your social circle and identify both its positive and negative influences, then isolate those you consider harmful, moving away from those with whom they interfere and seeking out people who can add positivity and inspiration into your life.

Though developing supportive relationships may take some time, the rewards can be enormous - you'll surely appreciate their contributions when the time comes!

Practicing Assertiveness and Effective Communication

Practice assertiveness and effective communication for self-care purposes and to improve relationships.

Being assertive involves clearly communicating your boundaries and requests while respecting others' thoughts and emotions.

While some may find assertiveness techniques intimidating or aggressive sounding, there are ways you can practice assertiveness without creating any emotional turmoil or harming anyone emotionally.

Practice assertiveness techniques with a trusted friend or family member by acting out scenarios requiring it, such as responding to an aggressive boss or managing conflicts in relationships.

By practicing such situations and receiving feedback from them, your confidence will grow when applying the techniques in real life.

Focus on body language and tone of voice when communicating. What we say might not always reflect what is truly meant.

For instance, if your roommate keeps forgetting to take out the trash, try saying something like: "I'm disappointed that you keep forgetting to take out the trash".

Your body language and tone of voice will ensure your words are more easily understood by those listening.

Consider seeking assistance from a counselor offering assertiveness training.

They may teach specific strategies like fogging - which allows you to state your refusal while showing that you value the other person's perspective - or the broken-record technique which helps when someone does not respond immediately; just repeat your message without becoming upset until they accept it.

Setting Goals and Taking Action

Goal setting is essential to making progress in life, whether your aim is weight loss, saving money or starting a business.

Goals provide us with something to aspire toward and motivate us to work hard towards attaining them; at work they help provide perspective as a team understand what they should strive towards as one unit.

Goals represent broad long-term outcomes they strive for while objectives, strategies, and tactics provide specific actions they can take towards achieving those goals.

When setting goals, ensure they are meaningful and align with your Purpose or Higher Self.

Otherwise, they could feel superficial or irrelevant - one reason people abandon goals along their journey: not feeling an emotional connection with them and progress made despite efforts put in.

Once your goals are clear and meaningful, turn them into actionable steps by devising a game plan for their fulfillment.

This will increase your odds of achieving them more quickly - for instance a goal such as "lose weight" can be improved upon by creating an eating and exercise regimen plan as part of that goal.

You could also set a specific deadline and timeframe. Lucidchart provides an effective goal-setting tool which makes tracking progress simple so your team remains on course.

Cultivating a Support System and Seeking Help If Needed

Building up your support network of friends can make life less isolating in times of hardship, or help to keep going when everything seems fine.

A support system consists of individuals or groups who help ease stress or difficulties by offering their shoulder or advice when needed.

Friends and family members can be great resources when starting to form a supportive network of people, so the best place to begin building one would be with them.

Being open about your goals and seeking their assistance in building this support system may help.

You could mention developing both professional (people who share similar careers as you) or personal support systems (those available to listen and offer guidance or encouragement).

Hobbies and interest groups provide an ideal setting to meet like-minded individuals, expanding your circle of potential supporters while forging lifelong bonds.

Attend social events at your college or in your local area; Herzing offers numerous opportunities for this through student clubs and events.

If a relationship in your support network is becoming too much of a source of tension for you, it's essential that you recognize this and put an end to it in an amicable manner.

Consulting a counselor or other professional advisor may help identify what's hindering the connection, so consult one today if you're having difficulties connecting.

Building Self-Awareness As a Foundation for Confidence

Self-aware individuals can use an increased awareness of themselves to make better decisions, gain greater control of their lives and have more autonomy.

Self-aware people recognize their strengths and weaknesses, what motivates them, how others view them as well as understand the consequences of their actions on themselves and those around them.

This process leads to high emotional intelligence - the ability to recognize and regulate one's emotions - as well as high levels of self-reflection, or actively thinking about yourself and events in your life.

Reflection also enables you to spot blind spots - traits or aspects of yourself which remain unknown but limit effectiveness - within yourself and can hinder performance.

Bob recognizes his difficulty writing quarterly reports for his company, so he engages in self-reflection to understand why this task has become challenging for him.

Through evaluation, he finds it challenging to ensure all details are accurate and cohesive in each report he creates. After taking some steps himself, he decides to seek professional assistance in improving his skills to take on more challenging assignments.

Building self-awareness in students should be an important goal, and there are various methods to foster it in the classroom.

Utilizing lesson plans and activities designed to promote self-reflection; inviting guest speakers on this topic; organizing workshops or retreats focused on personal growth can all support efforts to make our pupils more self-aware.

Confidence is key to a man's success

Each of us has a different definition for male confidence. We all say, 'I wish that I had more confidence' at times.

We sometimes need to have a plan in order to improve ourselves. You'll understand what I mean if you have ever watched a charismatic, smooth presentation and thought, "I wish I had confidence like that."

We have the perfect solution for you, whether you want to gain that confidence you need to approach someone special you just can't look away from, or stand up at work and make a pitch.

Follow our 15 confidence-boosting tips and stop worrying about becoming a confident guy. Here's how.

1. Vision is important

Knowing where you are going makes planning the way to get there much easier. A confident man has a vision and a direction. 

What to do if you want to become a confident, well-planned man: 

Identify your future goals and write them down

You can either inject new energy into your goals and dreams or up the ante and make them bigger.

Take small steps to your goal. You will gain confidence as you progress, and your goal will become a reality.

It's important to be comfortable with the vision you have. Your vision may evolve.

You don't have to be embarrassed about what you wish to achieve

You can keep a visual reminder near you - on your mobile phone, or wherever else you are likely to spend time.

2. Fail to Improve

It is important to set goals in order to be a confident guy, but it is another thing entirely to accept (potential failure). 

All of us make mistakes. All of us try to improve our skills. We get frustrated and fail. It is healthy to adopt this attitude. You may have set goals for yourself and planned out how you will achieve them. But you must be able to accept failure. 

When we are unsuccessful, our first reaction is often to quit. Confidence means you accept your mistakes and give them another shot. 

Confused about how to become a confident guy? You can always try and fail again. You will achieve your goals much easier if you can break the feeling of guilt, shame or frustration at having failed. Accepting your failures means you will take action to fix what's wrong. 

Accepting failure can help you become a confident man: 

Be more aware of your own abilities - if something does not work, you can still achieve what you want. Accept this failure and move on.

Fear of failure is holding you back from trying new things? Ask yourself why you are afraid. This will help you overcome those fears.

You're not good at it? Suck at something? Get used to something that you don't know how to do.

3. Discover yourself.

Start by getting to know you. It's not enough to be confident around your friends, you also need to feel confident about yourself. 

What does it take to be a man who is confident? Here are some tips to help you grow. 

  • Spend time repeatedly. The more often you put in the effort, the greater the confidence of men.
  • Reflect on your weaknesses and strengths. This will help you evaluate yourself and become more confident in weak areas.
  • Talk to your family and friends about what you are good at and where you need improvement. This will allow to spot any trends.
  • You can discover more about yourself by taking a personality quiz. 

4. You should be proud of your appearance

We feel confident when we look and feel good. Make it a habit to shower, shave and groom yourself every day. 

You'll never go back once you establish a regular routine. It's not about buying new clothes, it's more about feeling confident in your clothing and spending time on your appearance. 

To get motivated, shower first, then shave your face, brush your teeth, and comb your locks. It's not too late to get back into your favorite clothes. Lockdown might have forced us all to wear sweats and old shirts. 

5. Motivational past victories

Take a look at your past successes if you want to know how to become a more confident man. 

You can boost your confidence by looking at past achievements. 

6. Enjoy your food

Confidence is not just about how you look, it's also about feeling that confidence. A healthy diet is a key part of maintaining your physical and mental wellbeing. 

In addition to establishing a good grooming regimen, you can also start your own self-care by eating healthy food that makes you feel energetic and happy. 

Prepare meals ahead of time to avoid buying unhealthy food when working

Enjoy healthy food and the flavors of cooking by spending time in the kitchen

7. Confidence in men is action

Take action if you're looking to become a confident man. Confidence in males means making decisions with confidence, rather than letting fear, anxiety, or apprehension stop you. 

Are you looking for ways to gain confidence in men? Take small steps: 

  • Make your bed every morning as part of a routine
  • Create a regular workout schedule
  • Push yourself out of your comfort zones by doing something that you dislike.
  • Do you feel anxious or uneasy? Why are you feeling anxious or uncertain?
  • Make sure you have daily goals that you feel good about achieving.

8. New limits are possible when you push yourself.

Join the club if you find it difficult to take risks! It's not something that happens overnight. But it is a result of constant action and pursuit. 

Are you unsure how to be a man who is confident and pushes his limits? Here are some tips to get you started: 

  • Do not leave the difficult tasks to last. Complete them as soon as possible.
  • Each week, you will face a different fear
  • Don't rush to finish something if you are uncomfortable.
  • Check back where you began for an extra confidence boost

9. Positive thinking is important

Confidence is all about the way you think. You're not going to give your all if you approach something with a negative mindset. 

Take on a challenge instead of telling yourself that you cannot do it. Find ways to overcome the obstacle. Confidence in men is all about taking on challenges and seeing the good side of things. 

How to be a man who is confident and has a positive attitude: 

  • Self-awareness is key to recognizing when you're focusing your attention on negative thoughts.
  • Write down the positives when faced with a difficult situation to improve and move on.
  • Read positive affirmations out loud every day.

10. Implement generosity

The generous person knows that he can offer something positive. Give generously to a worthy cause if you are able. Offer your help to an organization that is in need of assistance if you don't have any extra money. 

You'll soon realize that you can give something back in some way when you gain confidence in your own abilities. 

11. Open your mind

You should always be willing to learn. Confidence means admitting when you are wrong or don't understand something. 

You can become an all-round man by being willing to learn and ask for help. This will increase your knowledge, which in turn, increases the confidence of men. 

12. Silence is good enough

We all believe being confident means to be the most loud and talkative person in the room. It is often the opposite. 

Confidence in men is being completely content to sit quietly and watch the chaos unfold around you. It is not important to be heard or noticed, just as long as you are content with being a silent spectator. 

A confident man is composed and knows how to speak when appropriate. The man who is always talking in a situation may not be confident and doesn't understand silence. 

13. Always persevere

The fact that a man does not give up is a sign of his confidence. Take any opportunity to learn and don't fear failure. 

Start with simple tasks you can see clearly from the beginning and focus on your vision. 

14. Always be curious

Confidence means asking questions and keeping an open-minded mind about topics that you are not familiar with. 

Do not be afraid to expand your knowledge. Be curious and open to new things. 

What to do if you want to become a man who is confident and asks lots of questions? 

  • Not sure what someone is saying? Clarify the meaning
  • Asking 'What do you mean' will help you dig deeper.
  • Ask a question instead of making a declaration
  • When you ask questions rather than make statements, observe the reactions.

15. Do not just check the boxes

Empathy and love are essential to being a man of confidence. 

Confidence in men is being okay that not everyone will like you or think you are the greatest thing since slicedbread. You won't achieve anything by being a people pleaser. 

You can fight the urge to eat by following these tips: 

  • Self-audit: If you find that your opinions or beliefs on certain issues have changed because of those around you. Try to prevent this and stand up for what you truly believe.
  • Do not agree to things or give people a yes-or-no just because you want to be liked.


It may take time to become a confident guy, but these tips will help you feel good about yourself. 

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